The Mission of PAIRS is to teach those attitudes, emotional understandings and behaviors that nurture and sustain healthy relationships.

The Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills (PAIRS) Program.

What is PAIRS?

Remember the "I Love Lucy" series? If you haven't seen if for a while, catch a re-run some time.

And when you do, notice the roles that Lucy and Ricky play. Not the acting roles, but the husband and wife roles. Ricky comes and goes from work, and Lucy fills her days with cooking, cleaning, and playing bridge. And while Lucy handles the social calendar, Ricky controls every cent of the money.

Well, begging for permission to buy a new outfit doesn't go over too well with wives today. And husbands are expected to not only hold down a job (along side their wives many times), but to help out with a myriad of household duties as well.

You see, marriage used entail dutifully executing certain roles. Raising children. Completing your "assigned jobs". --And being satisfied with that. No questions asked.

But marriage today is far different. No longer content to simply fulfill a list of designated chores, many men and women demand a deeper connection. They long for an intimate and fulfilling marriage to each other-- for a lifetime.

In fact, most couples even concede that a great marriage packs benefits for not just the themselves, but also for their children, their work-places, and their communities in general.

Recognizing this longing for intimacy and stability that most couples have, PAIRS helps you get there.

PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills), developed by Lori H. Gordon, Ph.D, ( http://www.pairs.com/about/logic_lori.html)  provides a comprehensive system to enhance self-knowledge and to develop the ability to sustain pleasurable intimate relationships. Gordon’s approach integrates a wide range of theories and methods from psychology, education and psychotherapy and presents them in an educational format. PAIRS acts to bridge therapy, marital enrichment, and marriage and family development

Having completed PAIRS Training, you will be able to:

• Understand the biblical concepts of aloneness and intimacy

• Understand why the Relationship Road Map leads you down a path of unbelievable intimacy

• Learn the behaviors you can change that remove barriers to intimacy

• Engage in Effective Intimate Communication vs. Stress Styles of Communication

• Confide and complain effectively to enhance intimacy

• Engage Empathic Listening skills

• Learn to solve problems in a way that strengthens your relationships

• Discover what your family bestowed on you that you didn't even know about

• Create a personal Genogram – The Four Generational Map.

• Clarifying misunderstandings arising from unspoken assumptions and hidden expectations

• Understand the roles of Emotional Memory and Early Decisions

• Identify Emotional Allergy Infinity Loops and how they are resolved to the LOVE Loops

• Understand and apply the principles of forgiveness

Love Knots

Misunderstandings are unavoidable in intimate relationships, but now you can minimize their frequency-- and bypass the pain associated with them!

This tried-and-true, 1-day workshop is a great follow-up to the  2-day “Passage to Intimacy” below.

Addressing fautly assumptions and agonizing misunderstandings, you’ll learn about “Love Knots” and how to untangle them.

Learn to identify your own love-killing puzzles and double binds.

If you’re serious about intimacy, then you want to go a step beyond good communication. This workshop shows you how.

Tuition Rate:  $50.00 per person for the day (includes materials).

Early Bird Registration Rates:  $40.00 per person for the day (includes materials) .

Alternative Funding:  Please contact the office at 419-660-0533 if you would like to attend but are in need of assistance.

Passage to Intimacy

This 2-day basic-skills workshop is the most popular short workshop offered by PAIRS. Grasp intimacy-building skills. Walk away with tools to communicate, solve problems, and heal relationship wounds. Taught in either a weekend or in four 4-hour segments. 

Tuition Rate:  $25.00 per hour per couple.

Early Bird Registration Rates:  $15.00 per hour per couple.

Alternative Payment:  Please contact the office at 419-660-0533 if you would like to attend but are in need of alternative payment.

PAIRS for Families

This 1-day program uses materials that both parents and children (ages 10 and older) can follow.

At the workshop, parents and children practice relationship skills together.

In many homes, adolescent hostility and resistance wreak havoc on parent/child relationships. And, if we’re really honest, we’ll admit that we as parents don’t always help with our reactions!

Replace the bickering with respect, listening, and concern for each other. PAIRS for Families will teach you how!

Tuition Rate:  $75.00 per family (includes materials).

Early Bird Registration Rates:  $50.00 per family (includes materials) .

Alternative Funding:  Please contact the office at 419-660-0533 if you would like to attend but are in need of assistance.

PAIRS Pre-Marital

Testimonies

"Pairs has made a huge difference in our lives. Our communication is better than it has ever been, and if it starts to get off, I know we have the tools to get it back on track.

Because of significantly better communication skills, I think our level of trust and safety in the marriage has gone up.

I recommend this course to everyone who is willing to work (use the PAIRS tools) to improve their marriage and their relationships in general."

-Susan,

Cincinnati, Ohio

"For a young couple enjoing the beginning of our relationship, I think this gave us a variety of ways to better share with each other, learn about ourselves and our partners, resolve conflicts, and develop relationship skills to maintain the happy partnership we have now."

-Name Withheld